You focus on your weaknesses.
Your brain fixates on finding what went wrong to ensure it does not reoccur.
This stems from an inherent reward-motivation and punishment-aversion.
The challenge with this equation is that you are a social creature.
The weaknesses over which you obsess are rooted in establishing social security.
No, not the government program.
Your brain follows an invalid logical sequence.
A= You have a weakness, B= The outcome of that weakness is social pain.
Therefore, if you fix A you will not experience B.
The problem is that the correlation of A -> B is indirect.
Solving A does not mean B will not occur in the same way that wearing a rain coat does not prevent rainy weather.
The life of man* (in a state without coffee) is solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short,